Day 14 of 21
My word for 2019 is “new”. When I decided to focus on that word in this NEW YEAR, I asked God to guide me in what I needed to be renewed or refreshed in for this new year. I did not want to set up goals and resolutions that I would be disappointed with, but I wanted God to show me what I needed to do so that I would be satisfied not in my own accomplishments, but on what He wanted me to accomplish. For those who know me, I want to help the world and that’s where I get my joy from. But during this season He is showing me thought devotions that I need to start setting up healthy relationship boundaries.
I have always said that Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves”, is all me, but that verse also has boundaries. As Christians we are called to serve others. Some of us have the mother instinct to just help, but sometimes we need to see that it might not be our issue to resolve, but God’s issue and we need to think what’s best for them and how God can get the glory at the end (Philippians 2:4). It might be to build self-reliance or learn that our choices have consequences. It does not mean we are selfish if we don’t bail someone out, it means we love them and want the best for them and this is what God is revealing to me. It can be difficult to set healthy boundaries around ourselves. But if we think less about ourselves and more of who we are helping it will make the process move refreshing.
It’s important to discern when love and wisdom require us to say no to certain things or relationships. First we need to ask ourselves “I am considering the interest of Christ first” (Philippians 2:21) and second “am I acting out of faith working through love” (Galatians 5:6).
Boundaries last only as long as our hearts are aligned towards Christ. We need to tend our relationship so that they can blossom to their full potential according to God’s standards not our own. Plant them with the seeds of the word of God, root them in Christ for deep flourishing, water them with love and grow them in community (healthy relationships).
Hope you were blessed.
on Saturday, January 19 at 1:01PM